**Warning, really long post!
I didn’t feel that I needed to speak about my opinion about
something because I don’t have a huge following like some of you amazing
bloggers out there, but I wanted to share a few things that I’ve learned along
the way regarding social media.
the way we promote our actual site. Most
people nowadays prefer to follow these fashion bloggers on Instagram and never
even click on their blog link. I would
know because I’m actually guilty of it!
Sometimes I honestly just really like the pictures they post, but don’t
find their blog really that interesting because they don’t really write at all
and they basically just post the pictures, so why not just see them on
Instagram? I’ve seen so many things on Instagram
specifically that are just those “oh no, seriously?” moments. A good example was on one of my Auschwitz
posts on Instagram someone actually said “wow, great shot, check out my page.” Like, what?
Did you not see the post? Did you
not read anything about it? I usually
delete those comments because it’s just annoying. For today’s post I want to get into what to
do and what not to do on social media, especially Instagram since that’s the
biggest thing right now.
of what a bot comment would look like, although this might have been an actual
person spamming everyone’s Insta, who knows.
What bloggers do is they spend money to have a service comment and like
other people’s posts so that they don’t have to spend time doing it
themselves. I mean, this could be very
effective and in their favor if it actually was full proof. I’ve seen these bot comments on posts about
how someone has passed away and how hard it is and it’s a picture of their
hands holding in a hospital and I see comments like “great shot” or “I have
this company, come check out my page.”
interact with your audience or people you follow it’s not that hard. How long does it really take to read an
Instagram caption? I think the longest
one for me was a few minutes, but that’s because the person wrote a really long
heartfelt post. Instead of aimlessly
scrolling on Facebook, take the time to read people’s posts and comment. Some bloggers won’t respond because they get
thousands of comments and they probably don’t have that extra down time to
interact with their readers. I mean at
that point, they’re kind of like celebrities.
I mean, I’m not saying that saying “cute” for every comment you write is
ok. That doesn’t really do much. I have a few blogger friends who comment on
my posts and they start a conversation with me.
I’m not saying you have to do this all the time because sometimes saying
super cute outfit is the best we can come up with, which is totally fine! You don’t need to start a discussion on every
follow accounts you enjoy
I had a breakdown in my Instastories and just had at it on this topic. I know it wasn’t my proudest moment as a
blogger, but I couldn’t take it anymore.
I CANNOT STAND when people follow just to have you follow them and then
the next day they unfollow. This is why
when I see a blogger with 143k followers and is only following 150 people I
just ignore it. In the beginning I used
to follow everyone back because I thought I was being nice and then when I
discovered the unfollow app, I saw all of these people who had unfollowed
me. I have this story about a bigger
blogger who I won’t name because I’m not petty like that who did this to me (although
not going to lie I so badly wanted to call her out on social media but I knew I
would look like an idiot not her). I met
her at the Lucky FABB conference a few years ago in LA. I saw her outside trying to take a picture
and my friend and I offered to take her picture because we know how it is as a
blogger to get the perfect shot. So my
friend and I exchanged business cards with her and followed social media
accounts with said blogger. I would
comment on all of her posts because she was so gorgeous and her pictures were
stunning. Then I noticed that she wasn’t
following me through my unfollow app. I
decided to keep following her but then when I noticed she wasn’t responding I
just decided to unfollow because I’m not going to lie I was a little hurt, and
this was in the beginning of my blogging career when I was super insecure about
my blog and had people telling me I shouldn’t be blogging because it’s
stupid. I think I was also a little
bummed because it’s not like I was some random person, we actually met each
other and had a conversation.
ok cool, maybe she actually likes my stuff!
Well I followed her back and the next day she had unfollowed me. I know it’s really stupid sounding when you
read this, and you probably think I’m complaining like a brat or that I sound a
bit immature (you might be right on the immature part though lol), but at this
point she had 40k followers, so if anything you should be a role model for
bloggers, not an annoyance. She ended up
following me again a few weeks after. I
finally worked up the guts to message her.
I basically said that I used to respect her as a blogger because I
personally love her fashion and her photos are gorgeous, but I don’t like the
follow just to unfollow so that she can just gain more followers. I then proceeded to say, judging by your
followers count you don’t need to do this game of follow/unfollow because she
has a lot. I never bad mouthed her or
anything, but she never responded and never followed me on Insta again. The reason why I tell you this is because you’d
be surprised how many bloggers actually do this. They don’t even need to because they have
such a huge following to begin with. And
to be honest, it’s just annoying.
after a little while they just aren’t interested in what I post anymore. That’s totally fine and understandable
because I’ve unfollowed accounts that got too controversial. I followed you because I liked your clothes
lol no need to just completely change everything on me! What you should do is just let it go, be yourself,
and have fun. You need to differentiate
yourself from the other bloggers or Instagrammers. Don’t be afraid to be different. Once I started not caring so much about
followers I started having more fun. Yes
followers are definitely important, but I mean I’m not one of those bloggers
who has a huge appeal. I’m not a full
time blogger, nor do I plan to be. I
blog for so many reason, but none of them are to become full time. I used to follow everyone because I just
wanted to be nice, but now half the time I honestly don’t see the notifications
because I don’t have time to really scroll.
If I do though, I usually take a look at the Instagram and if I like it,
I follow it.
me. When they say follow for follow, or
if they comment on my picture and say “wow love your gallery, totally following
you, you should follow me back.”
Butttttt, when I look they aren’t following me. Those are comments I delete too. I’m all for supporting other bloggers on
social media, but as soon as you do the F4F nonsense you get the boot haha.
one another and going back and forth on social media it drives me nuts. That recent Kat Von D vs. Jeffree Star thing
was so obnoxious. Why can’t we just
leave our issues behind the scenes.
There’s no reason to go online and air out your dirty laundry. If you get into a fight with someone, just
give each other some space and talk like civilized human beings when you’re
ready. And of course, don’t go on social
media and complain about the other person.
It’s literally like Mean Girls all over again.
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